Marriage and divorce are two terms that should not be said together. In an ideal world marriages would always be happy and successful but the reality is that this is often not the case.
The reasons for marriage and divorce are many and varied and it should always be remembered that every relationship is different and none of us can judge what is right for somebody else’s relationship.
Some relationships and marriages might not appear to us to be right but it may be that the couple concerned are happy with the way things are. On the other hand it may be that either or both of the couple may feel trapped by their circumstances or wish their situation was different.
Finding the right person to marry is crucial if you want to have a successful marriage. OK is not good enough. Liking someone is not good enough and sometimes loving someone may not be enough. Caring for someone does not mean that marriage will be wonderful as we all require different things from a partner.
We all have needs, desires and wishes as to what our perfect relationship should be but few find the perfect match that can provide all of these things. For most of us any relationship is a compromise of giving what we can and getting what is available and accepting that there will always be somethings that are less than perfect but we should hope that these things are minor and we can ignore them without feeling we have abandoned our principles.
Nobody should feel their marriage can not go wrong. Every marriage and every relationship has the potential to fall apart if certain things that are vital to one partner or the other begin to disappear or fall apart.
It may sound mercenary but marriage and relationships require us to feel happy and content with what we get out of the relationship. Marriages are helped to work by giving but ultimately we all need to get what we need from the relationship to make us happy and to feel content with life.
This, of course, works both ways. You may feel you do not get what you need from the relationship but so might your partner. We are all different and what would satisfy and perhaps even thrill one person might feel inadequate and unsatisfactory for someone else.