Most men have felt approach anxiety while socializing. For most guys it comes on when considering to approach a woman they find attractive. Approach anxiety can be so overwhelming that it keeps you from ever talking to women.
There is a method for overcoming this social paralysis. For many approach anxiety begins as an internal negative dialouge. This mental loop can be countered with an opposing positive dialouge.
Question: “Why did I go out this evening?”
Answer: “To meet women.”
Question: “How will I be able to meet women?”
Answer: “I must approach them and talk to them.”
Question: “If I don’t even try to approach at least one woman how will I feel?”
Answer: “I will feel horrible and see this night as a worthless and awkward experience.”
Question: “For how long will I remember will this negative experience?
Answer: “It will be on my mind until I can go out again and I will feel horrible about it.”
Question: “Do I want to feel crappy for a while or do I want to feel great right now?”
Answer: “I want to feel like a rock-star, I’m going to do this!”
Then, to make all of the above worthwhile, you must take action. Use the strong negative feeling of your approach anxiety to propel you to approach. Turn your fear into your power.
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