So you don’t think you’re a romantic? Well your assessment could be wrong. If you get enjoyment from how your partner reacts after having pleased her in some way, then you are a romantic at heart. If you like hearing an occasional love song on the radio, then you’re a romantic.

So if most guys can answer yes to the above questions, why do women complain that guys aren’t romantic enough? The answer is that although they have these feelings, they either don’t know how or feel awkward about expressing them. You have to remember that your partner isn’t asking you to express these feelings to the world at large, just to her.

Being romantic means you’ve got to do things that will make her happy. Your romantic act should have some surprise or unpredictability to it. But there can always be exceptions to this.

Both of you can plan a romantic vacation together. Some tips on expressing your romantic side:

1.) Make an effort to escape the routine that is running your life now. The start of a relationship is normally associated with romance because so much change is happening to both of you. Your relationship at the beginning was a radical change from your usual routine. Everything seemed to be new, exciting, and so was romantic.

This feeling of newness and excitement can be rekindled again by breaking out of routine. Stop taking her out to the same old places. Go through your local newspaper for events and things that you’ve never tried before and do them. Make a point of always trying something different.

2.) Show love in lots and lots of little ways. You might try sneaking up behind and doing some hugging and kissing. Or writing some love notes and leaving them where they’ll be discovered. Put some of the notes in a book that she’s currently reading or in a favorite magazine of hers.

Is she going on a trip without you (a visit to her parents or perhaps a business trip)? Try hiding a gift wrapped box of chocolates with a note at the bottom of her luggage case where she’ll find it later on her trip.

3.) Give her a good surprise with something truly exceptional. Send her a romance novel with you and her as the main characters of the plot. You can try doing it the hard way and write the whole thing yourself.

But you could do it the easy way by downloading a romance novel that has an expired copyright (is in the public domain). With a text editor, do an automated search and replace operation that exchanges your names with the names of the main characters (lovers). Now you can print it out on a printer and get it bound in a hard cover.

To find a romance novel in the public domain, go to Google and search for “romance novels” +”public domain”. The downloads are free.

To get the book bound, go to Google and search for “bind a book”. You’ll find numerous tutorials and services that will do it for you.

These are just a few of endless ways of giving your partner the gift of romance. The tips discussed here are only the beginning. Put a little effort into it and it will only get easier.

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