Some men go through life feeling that they are alone and unloved. Some are married but feel that they are in a loveless relationship, others have never been in a long term relationship. Both categories, whether you are married or in a relationship but have that feeling of loneliness and those of you who have never been in a long term relationship should search yourselves first before pointing the finger at anyone else.

Are your expectations of yourself and/or your partner unrealistic? Do you think that the love that is portrayed on TV and in the Movies is real? Nothing is ever as easy as you see on TV, you have to work at a relationship to make it work, nothing will ever drop into your lap or fall into place without effort. As the Bible says, “God helps those who help themselves”.

You can look all over the world, all of your life, for that someone special, and usually when it is too late, you discover that the one you were looking for was right beside you all of the time. My brother, for example, was married at an early age, he now has been married and divorced 4 times, and lived with another 3 women, all of whom were very similar in looks to his first wife, but not at understanding as her.

To make a blossoming relationship work and to keep it blossoming you have to continue to make the effort and even increase your efforts. Let me use this analogy. If you buy a business, you will work at it day and night to make it a success. Once you reduce your efforts the business will fail very quickly. The same goes for a relationship, no relationship will last without the effort.

For those of you who have never been in a long term relationship, what are you looking for in a partner? Are you looking for a partner who only exists in fairy tales? There is no such thing as “and they all lived happily ever after”. Be realistic, you are not perfect so why should you expect to find a partner who is perfect. The perfect match or person does not exist.

An Asian woman treats her man like he is a king. She will work, she won’t sit around the house and do nothing like many other women do. She will send money back to her family, that is her obligation, but she will earn that money.

Your house will be a home, she will cook for you; so well that you won’t want to eat out anymore. Above all she will ensure that you are happy in the bedroom. I don’t know what it is with Asian women, I think that it is in their genes or their mothers teach them from birth that the way to keep a man is to give him an excellent sex life.

Asia is full of Westerners who will tell you that they are looking for someone to love and who will love them. Don’t get me wrong, you can find and fall in love over there, but most are there looking to have as much sex as they can. That’s not love, and if they think that a girl who they meet in a bar loves them from the first moment they see him they are kidding themselves.

These girls in the main are or can be very nice girls, but they are looking for a way out of poverty. They will do and say anything to marry someone who will take them out of Asia. Sure they will look after you, as long as you are good to them, and you can come to love each other. But they don’t say “love you short time” for nothing, they will love you as long as you are there or as long as your money lasts.

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