I write about mens gifts and mens gift ideas, and I get asked a lot of questions about buying great gifts for men. And there’s one question that comes up more than any other. “What gift do I buy for the man who has enough money to buy anything he wants?”

This is of course pretty common. Lots of men just get out there and buy something if they want it, they don’t drop hints near birthday time hoping that the hint will be picked up and acted on. Almost by definition, if he wants it he’s already got it.

Not always of course, often it’s a question of cost. There are men with a list of wants that they would like to fill, but just can’t afford them. If your man is like that, and you can afford those gifts, then ask him and see what he’ll say, he’ll probably jump at the chance to tell you about those things he’d love the most but can’t buy for himself.

But lets assume for a moment that your man can afford what he wants, and so you’re a little stuck for ideas for unique and unusual birthday gifts or Christmas gifts that are going to get his juices going.

Here’s 7 ideas for gifts for him. He may love all of them, he may love none of them, but I doubt it. There’ll be at least one gift for him there that he’ll love. Some are extremely expensive and some aren’t.

1. Lingerie. Now of course I’m not the first person to suggest lingerie as a great gift idea for a man. But it works. Men love to see their women in hot lingerie, so it’s a gift for him that you wear for him. I see lots of lists of hot mens gifts ideas and lingerie is always there at or close to number 1. Affordable and it works.

No matter how many pieces of beautiful lingerie a woman has, if she selects well and chooses the right piece I can just about guarantee her man will love it, provided of course she wears it for him. It’s almost a can’t fail gift.

And you can get lingerie in all sizes, so girls you have no excuses to say that you can’t find your size. If your man loves you large he’ll love you large and wearing hot lingerie too.

2. Buy him an adventure gift. Not all men love adventure, but most do. And believe it or not there are companies that cater directly to that with all sorts of adventure. Things that a man with a death wish will love right down to subtle adventure like a romantic spa for 2 at a beautiful remote location.

And for all sorts of tastes. Would he love to do his first parachute jump? Try white water rafting? Drive a tank or a supercar? Go zero-g just like the astranauts do in training? You can give him a gift of any of these things and thousands more, from the extreme adrenalin gift to the gentle and invigorating and pampering gift. The adventure gift companies cater for all tastes in outdoors and adventure and adrenalin, even to beautiful and luxurious days like wine tastings and spa days. There’s something for everyone.

3. An eco holiday. There is a growing worldwide movement to charity and volunteer and ecological work and travel. Rather than just buy him a holiday in Europe, which is a little ho hum, why not buy him some volunteer travel with a difference. There are lots of companies which offer adventure travel with a twist, volunteer work that helps out those less fortunate than ourselves, both people and animals and the environment.

Perhaps he’d like to be in the wilds of Africa working with animals or maybe on a research vessel off the coast of Mexico counting turtles? It’s fun, it’s really exciting and it’s very different. It helps those less fortunate and it’s a great holiday and gift idea for him (and why not you too)?

It’s expensive often, but it a fabulous holiday. He’ll never forget it.

4 Chinese art. This is a favorite of mine because I lived in China for a while and just love Chinese art. We have so many pieces that we don’t have enough space to hang them all. From beatiful Chinese wall hangings to the absolutely fabuluous and quite unique teapots of Yixing, there are so many Chinese artworks that would go so well in so many of our Western homes.

Chinese art is extremely cheap compared to the equivalent in Western art. And it’s a mens gift with a difference.

5. An elephant painting. Another one for the man who likes his art. Painted by a real Asian elephant on paper which is made from elephant dung. Now before you wonder if I’ve gone mad check it out. The elephants really do the painting, I have a video of it on my website. And believe it or not they paint recognizable objects. The paintings look great, are extremely inexpensive, and would make a great artwork to hang near the table to stimulate some evening conversation with his friends.

6. And then there’s the man who has absolutely everything and doesn’t want for anything at all. Buy him a whale. You really can buy him a whale, although delivery is a little problematical, as is wrapping it up. What happens is that there are organizations like the Hebridean Whale and Dolphin trust that track and identify real individual whales and allow you to name a whale or dolphin just for him, so he has his own whale out there somewhere.

The money helps in the protection of our whales and gives him a unique and memorable gift.

So there’s 6 suggestions for great ideas for mens gifts for the man who has it all. Start at $10 for some right up to extremely expensive. It’s all up to you.

Now you don’t have any excuses to say “I have no idea what to buy him for his birthday” any more.

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“Best ” break up advice can be found everywhere! Almost everyone you know instantly becomes an expert when you break up. Unfortunately, in their attempts to help out, often the advice of friends and relatives causes more problems than its worth! The best break up advice is contained here. What’s more its a proven success.

To survive a break up you will need to have a plan that tells you exactly what to say and do to put you in the best position to move forward. In situations where you decide you really don’t want to be apart from the person that you have broken up with, your actions and words are extremely important if you want the best chance to win them back. You certainly will need the best break up advice available.

The advice that follows is proven to be extremely effective and follows a set plan to try to win your ex back. Although some of this advice my seem like the last thing you want to do, experience has shown that following it to the letter will give you the best chance of making up with your loved one.

When you first break up, here are the four most important things you can do:

1. Although you are no doubt feeling emotionally drained and sick to the stomach, try not to panic! Although your heart will tell you not to, you are actually going to put in place a complete shut down of communication with your ex. Make no mistake, this mean complete and total stop to messaging, emailing and phone calls!

2. Write your ex a note! Well not just any note! The best break-up advice advises you that you need to write a short handwritten letter telling your ex you can see that the break up was coming and necessary. Let them know you agree with the break-up. This may seem difficult but it is an extremely important step on the journey to actually getting your ex back.

3. Make a promise to yourself to give yourself a makeover. Make sure you eat well, take time out just for you, get some regular exercise and take care of your appearance. This is part of the best make up advice you can get because it helps show the world (especially your ex!) that your life goes on and that you are not totally wiped out by the break up!

4. Let your friends and family see you go out! Although you probably don’t want to date, make sure you see old friends and do social things. Make sure people can see that you still know how to have fun even though you are have broken up. This type of behaviour from you will filter back to your ex. In fact what usually happens is that they can’t stop wondering about your change in behaviour. You get into their head because you behaviour has changed so dramatically from when you first broke up.

Once you have put these four steps into place, experience says you will be in extremely strong position. To others it will look like you have managed to move an after a clean cut off from your ex. In fact you will be so much better placed as you will have looked after yourself and taken some positive action. This is possibly some of the most important break up advice you will ever read!

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Getting back together with an ex is always difficult. Take the time to follow these few tips and you can make it a bit easier. So many people don’t succeed in winning their ex back. It’s not really our fault. No one ever handed us an instruction book when we first started dating that taught us how to handle a breakup. Much less, how to get someone back after a breakup. If you want your guy back, better read the following…

1. First and foremost, ditch the negativity. You need to get rid of the negative thoughts. You have to stop feeling sorry for yourself. You have to be willing to be strong. Don’t let your emotion and especially depression keep you down. You can’t achieve a goal, if you can’t keep your emotions in check and your mind clear. Self-pity is destructive and won’t help you at all, even in other avenues of life.

2. Learn to accept the fact that the ‘way things were’ is over. Nothing you can do will ever change what is past. You can’t let your mind keep wandering into memories of ‘how it used to be’. Focus on what is going on now. If you realize that the relationship of the past wasn’t perfect you’re heading in the right direction and laying the foundation for you and your ex boyfriend to get back. Remember you are most likely glossing over all the bad stuff that happened. Remember that the breakup didn’t just happen overnight, so don’t expect to be able to patch things up in a day either.

3. Don’t be obsessive. One of guys’ major turnoffs are girls who seem desperate. Especially ex boyfriends. You may want to seek comfort by hearing his voice or seeing his face, but if you really want him back, you must back off for a while. Don’t continuously call him, text message him, email him, or go to his place or where he hangs out just to see him. Give him time to realize he may have made a mistake. He may begin to actually miss you. Following him around like a lost puppy will only make you look pathetic, and make things harder for you.

4. Change yourself. Be someone men would desire. New clothes, makeup, hairstyle… whatever suits your fancy. If you’ve picked up a few pounds, start exercising and eating healthy. When you look good on the outside, you’re going to start feeling better about yourself on the inside. By feeling good on the inside you will be confident and happy. When you’re confident and happy, you will project this image to others. There’s nothing more attractive than the aura of confidence, and even an ex-boyfriend isn’t immune to this.

5. Take your time. If you’ve done the four steps, your ex will try getting back in touch with you by himself. Imagine his surprise when he sees the “new” you from step 4. He will probably be sorry that he broke up with you. Keep your physical contact with him to a minimum, if you do see him. Seeing you looking your best and seeing that you’ve become confident and happy will make him desire you. If you limit your physical contact with him, this will drive him crazy. Don’t rush into things and the future relationship will be stronger.

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